Married Life with kids

GUILTY AS CHARGED. I was reading the local newspaper, The Mindanao Daily Mirror, when I came across an article, A stronger marriage, even with the kids by Ana Theresa F. Basilio. Children are beautiful, but they're not the sole purpose of marriage, the article said it was coming from Charles Schmitz, PhD.He added, "one of the negative ways a baby affects marriage is the amount of time and energy he or she requires from her parents. A parent who cares for this demanding human day and night may have little left to offer his or her spouse. The lack of intimacy that can result and cause resentment on one or both sides can be crippling."

As a mother I want to be hands on with my children. I want to spend as much time as possible with them. Sometimes, my husband may feel neglected but we were in it in the first place. We both decided to have children. With that decision comes with responsibility. We have a responsibility to our children and whatever happens, negative or positive, will be a reflection of how we raise them. I guess and I pray that my husband will understand, the same manner I understand why he has to attend to our children more. These are helpless individuals who needs proper guidance, love and care from their parents in their growing years. As parents it is our obligation to instill values, to be a good example for them to emulate. As parents we need to prepare them for a life of their own.

Maturity and prayers are also important weapons in preserving a marriage. There are times when you feel weak, pressured and just have enough of everything, adding to the scenario is your crying baby and she doesn't seem to stop even if you did everything already. The next thing you realize you are nagging your husband. Shouting at him that you've done everything into this marriage and he has done nothing. Before you do this, take a deep breath and pray hard. Maturity will tell you that it will not help any if you nag. It will just add turmoil and hurt.

Children makes a family. However, the future of that family lies on the hands of the parents. Parents should recognize that there is another person added to the dynamics of being husband and wife, and that is their child. As cliche as is may sound, children are a blessing from God. Indeed they are. For me, they are my angels, they are the source of my serenity. I hope every parent feels the same.